To recap from Tip #1, this series is focused on how to make leading feel good — to feel less like you’re between a “rock and a hard place” when it comes to forcing people (and yourself) to do things that feel unpleasant.
Leading with Deliciousness means the opposite of that feeling. It means:
- having fun at work
- being eager to go to work
- feeling refreshed and renewed by the work, not exhausted
- feeling connected to the people you work with and to your own inner spirit
- a feeling of wellness, lightness, openness and freedom (think “shackles off”)
- feeling fired up and passionate about the work you do
- feeling the results you accomplish are actually worthwhile
Tip #2 – Name the “Why” ingredient
The fulfilling part of being a leader can get obscured by the red-tape and chores that go with the role.
This can leave you feeling disconnected, bored, stressed or overwhelmed.
To stay connected, find a reminder of what motivated you to take on this role in the first place – your “why”.
Making this connection can shift your feelings towards more positivity because you know “what” you’re doing has value and meaning. This could result in a small shift that makes the daily grind feel less “heavy”, and it’s possible it could result in a big shift that has you lit up with purpose, and spreading that motivation to others as well.
This tip is based on Simon Sinek’s TED Talk, “How Great Leaders Inspire Action”, and the golden circle he describes. Simon discusses how wildly successful outliers like Apple use their “why” instead of their “what” to connect to customers.
Try This: Create your own golden circle. Draw 3 concentric circles, label the inner one “why”, the middle one, “how” and the outer one “what”.
As you think through your to-do list chores, see how these fit into the “what” outer circle layer, or the “how” middle layer.
Now think deeper.
- Why are you in this role?
- What is it you hope to achieve?
- How do you want to feel?
Once you have a “why” drafted, go back to your “what” list. Is there alignment? If so, then knowing those actions have a tie-back to your purpose may make them feel “better” or less “dreaded”. If there is little alignment, then it might explain any feelings of disconnection you have to your daily activities, since they don’t fuel your passion.
Try to add at least one thing a day that connects to your “why”.
Be creative with the “how”. Once you have your circle, post it where you can see it daily so you feel connected to the “why” ingredient.
It just might make leading feel less of a squeeze.
Leading will more delicious. On an emotional level this could help you shift “up” out of:
Boredom, Pessimism, Frustration/Irritation/Impatience, “Overwhelment”, Disappointment, Doubt, Worry, Blame, Discouragement
And shift into:
Joy/Appreciation/Empowered/Freedom/Love, Passion, Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness, Positive Expectation/Belief, Optimism, Hopefulness, Contentment.
(Note: See the bottom of the Tip #1 article, for the full list of 22 Emotional Guidance Scale that is referenced above from the book “Ask and It is Given, by Jerry and Esther Hicks).
Photo: Taken at one end of the Balconies talus cave at Pinnacles National Park in California. A talus cave is formed by boulders that have fallen randomly to create a cave. This cave was dark, and required scrabbling over uneven ground and through tight spaces. This is an activity (a “what”) that supports my “why” to explore nature, discover different expressions of beauty, have fun, and to be healthy through exercise.